I never agree with my relations. That is why I have friends. Happy Christmas.
Thanks Ken and you make a good point. Those that are the closest to is, it is more difficult for them to see us as we effort to better ourselves. The remember too much and witnessed that journey we were on to forget the worse they have seen in us. We do that because it helps us live with the worse of ourselves. Being better at who we are takes courage and most ffind making excuses much easier.
It is not a change I speak but an enhancement as we grow. If it is true in what they say about Christ as he was not such a big hit at home and it is because of that he never preached there. It was those he did not know that heard the message it is said that he said. No strings attached. His words were a gift to those who did not know him and he ask for nothing in return for he knew it was best that way, not only for him but for others too.
For those of you who have not read Du Bois's SOUL'S OF BLACK FOLK, I urge you read it if you can leave any prejudice you may have away from it. What it says as he efforts to understands the divide between the black and the white can be said of any two cultures evolved different and then suddenly together. In essence he is saying in regards to ethnic purity it is indeed difficult for anyone who recognizes a strength in another not like himself, his peers rather than to see change will effort to hold him back and keep him down so they do not feel so all alone and guilty in that; for they have become accustom to that and feel safe in that.
I, too, was that way once and did not like myself for it. So I change in effort to understand why I thought that way and was better that I did effort to understand.
Today I have a grand daughter and it is in the observance of her I am glad I did because now I see what it all means. She is part black and white and what a truly beautiful soul she is; much better than the two that created her. Wow! Her father is not present in her life and if he could only observe her as I observe her, he would regret that fact that he is not present and would indeed suffer because of it. Sad !!!
We are no different when it comes to those we are the most familiar with like a family is. As I said those who are close remember to much and since they do not effort to enhance themselves and make excuses for the errors they know themselves they have made they remind us of our trangressions so they do not lose that they think is closest to them.
So yes Ken, I understand exactly what you mean when you say what you do as it relates to relatives. I hope you do to now. Thanks for reading.