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Thus a distinction can be drawn between doing what we should without a struggle against contrary desires; and employing what might be called "strength of will," that is, having to control a desire or temptation to do otherwise.
The way I see it there should also be a distinction between the contrary phenomena responsible for there being a struggle between contrary desires. One is (chemical) addiction. When an addiction is in play, the rational side of one's character wants one thing, while the addiction-affected emotions want another. The thing about addictions is that they are very hard for the brain to emotionally recognize as such, and yet can be very harmful. Since there is always a trade-off between false positives and false negatives, the emotions tend to reduce the false negatives (a wrong "this is not addictive" conclusion) by admitting many false positives (a wrong "this is addictive" conclusion). There are two contrary things going on: addictions, and what I call anti-addictions.
As for anti-addictions, I think it is appropriate to humor them somewhat, since the brain can gain insight as to how they work, which allows one to better understand exactly how they might be introducing error into one's life. As for addictions proper, they should be avoided as much as practicable (sometimes, as with food, this is a very tricky thing to do, but at other times, as with cigarettes, alcohol or sodomy, it is a simple black-and-white affair).
Many of the things claimed to be addictive I think really are anti-addictions. For instance, if one wrongly feels one is screwed up, one tends to especially want conformist drivel, because it is better to be controlled by standard television opinion than one's screwed-up emotions. Or if emotionally one sort of thinks the cave monsters in Angband (a computer game) are real, one obsessively won't want to stop playing because obviously if one really is slaying disgusting cave monsters and stops feeling like that is important, likely it is because some monster has got one's hindquarters. There is a very good reason why anger and will have a kind of momentum to them: the momentum protects one from sodomy altering one's opinion. Usually, anger and the other typically insane emotions are not useful and even harmful, but very occasionally they are extremely useful emotions, which shouldn't really be surprising since most at least fairly complex things that people have evolved to possess have some purpose. Anyway, many obsessions and harmful tendencies are actually akin to the opposite of addictions--they arise from anti-addictions defenses going berzerk--and so I am very annoyed (perhaps males so often having to deal with manipulative women making out like sex is addictive might give them a stronger tendency to be slightly anti-anti-addicted, i.e., insanely keen on not allowing patent nonaddictions to be classified as addictions) when people call these behaviors addictions, and prefer to call them anti-addictions.
As for being oneself, that is one of those things that is useful mainly to distant generations. If someone is true to himself, his success or failure will more depend on his own natural tendencies and abilities, which is of benefit because it causes evolution to select for these useful important things. It is very hard, though, to imagine how evolution would select for such tendencies. Being a good person in other ways tends to cause good people to love you more--the rewards are in the present generation. Do something that causes your descendants (on average) to be slightly evolved more, and the benefit will mainly be to distant descendants and their mates, who are not nearly as related to you as you yourself or your children are. People just don't have much in the way of moral motives encouraging them to be true to themselves or to appreciate that in others. Oh sure, there might be a handful of people who will more-or-less think for themselves, because when practically no one else thinks for themselves, well, that might make thinking for oneself a little more practical, but this is hardly an ideal situation.
I theorize there are two things going on, one complex, and one simple but curious. On the one hand, I think female lust has both epigenetic effects and effects on intraejaculate sperm selection. Anyway, though I may be somewhat foggy on the details, together I figure they or something similar conspire to create (in males who think for themselves) a correlation between DNA associated with thinking for oneself (that expresses itself strongly) and DNA that has engaged in much sex with lustful females. Thus, when males think for themselves, it's not just that they are thinking for themselves, it's especially true that the part of them that is good at having sex with lustful females is especially thinking for itself. Males think for themselves mostly just because they feel that will improve their chances of obtaining sex from lustful females. With females it is an entirely different more straightforward situation, I think. A conformist female doesn't measure the reproductive ability of a male just by how much a male is wanted by females, but by how much he is wanted by females who
think for themselves. I mean, really, oftentimes a guy is the object of the screams of thousands of adolescent girls just because MTV or Disney created mostly manufactured hype. What's so impressive about that as regards how much girls naturally like him? What a male really wants in order to especially attract girls is not lots of girls
per se, but lots of girls who are attracted to him because they have evaluated their own true natures and decided, "yeah, he's what I want". So it's kind of weird, because it's to get conformist girls that guys want non-conformist ones, and thus why occasionally females decide to be not conformist. Males who are naturally attractive to females, and more especially to young females, encourage girls to be true to themselves by coercing them, say, by not emotionally loving them as well as they otherwise would. And also, love might cause a girl to be true to herself because she knows that will make other girls more attracted to the male she loves.
One of the realizations that has most surprised me as I've gotten older is just how rare it is for people to actually think things out for themselves. In particular, it is very rare for people to put more than a trivial amount of effort into figuring out what their own nature is; sadly, most just assume that their nature is mostly what people in general or their favorite large group of respected people take it to be.