Being 'miffed' at others' sensitivity to derogatory words is - most unfortunately - the order of the day; however, it'll remain a blind spot to those doing this right up until the moment they too are injured by having their class, sect, race, orientation or religion likened to something derogatory or injurious.
You seem to be interpreting the use of 'gay' as a pejorative as a metaphor, likening silly or stupid things to homosexuals. I don't think that this is the case with most slang use of the word.
I'd like to point out that I am both opposed to stem cell research (on the grounds that it is murder) and people getting annoyed about foul language (on the grounds that they are, in fact, just words).
Strange. I couldn't have imagined, before just now, hearing someone argue Khethil's position and not instantly disliking them. It's a very polarizing topic for me, probably close to as infuriating as organized religion. I try, in all things, to apply logic and not to let emotion cloud my judgement, but this is one of those topics where I quickly fail, in every case. Those "silly whiners" deeply offend me simply through their existence. If I had to guess at the root of my hatred, I'd say that it probably stems from the fact that the easily offended usually have the most offensive morals; at this point I've been conditioned like one of Pavlov's dogs. I don't need to hear their bullshit morality to become incensed, the ease with which they are offended tells me everything I need to know.
So Khethil has set me on edge, but I haven't boiled over just yet. I am one of those people that goes out of my way to offend others. Oh, not as much now as I did when I was younger, mostly because I just don't care as much now; I've accepted that the world is a rotten place and that no amount of work on my part will ever make it a utopia. I'm damn proud of offending people. I take great pleasure in it, because it is my revenge for being offended by them.
I ask myself, which is more offensive? Me saying "****" or some fat housewife with 8 kids on welfare on the phone with her congressman, telling him that she wants to make sure that stem cell research never has a chance to cure debilitating diseases because destroying 16 cells is "murder"? Now obviously, there are people everywhere, in fact a majority of people in this country, who think my cursing is worse than shutting down stem cell research. Obviously it's so, or we'd have federal funding for stem cell research. As for me, I think that's absurd. How could any single word be more offensive than forcing others to spend their lives in misery, suffering because people have decided that a group of cells with no survival mechanism whatsoever constitutes a human being? The insanity of it, the unfairness of it is enough to make me scream. Then these sadistic people have the nerve to claim offense at something *I* say or do?
There are far more worrisome injuries that can be done to you by others than a bad name. You can call me whatever you want, I don't really care. Personally, I'd like to kick the snot out of all of those sensitive whiners, but there's just not enough time in the day and it's not worth doing time over.
Anything you say can be offensive. It is unfortunate that things have many meanings. You can't say **** on television, you can't write about politics or religion in a book. Writers books are desecrated, politicians are called heathens, and people can't speak what's on their mind because there's a chance that someone will find it offensive. I'd like to mention censorship on television. We know that shows with expletives are mature shows for mature audiences. Censorship is used to prevent immature people from hearing these words. If you were too immature to watch a show that offended you, why did you watch it. People get mad at Family Guy because their children watch it and learn 'bad' things from it. If you were a responsible parent, your child wouldn't be watching it! Unfortunately there are too many people in this country who are sensitive wimps who are easily offended. Some pejoratives prevent you from getting your point across while talking in public. There will always be censorship in this country, since there are always people not willing to grow up. Anyways, children still learn awful things from their parents, siblings, or classmates. Only simpleminded dolts have a need for expletives and pejoratives like gay in daily conversation, unless trying to convey that someone is gay or something similar. Expletives don't have as much of an impact as a powerful, logical statement.
i think there has to be something wrong in society where a person resorts to suicide over name-calling. or why is it a person can come to believe being laughed at is the worst thing that can happen to him? (my father believed that).
and there has to be something wrong in the person's life as far as his support system. in the article it sounds as if the mother was supportive-but i notice there was no mention of a father. maybe he was lacking any adult male role models or guides.
bullies in school are still a big problem in america as it was in the day when i was in school and i will remember til the day i die everyone who ever acted that way towards me and how i retaliated by treating people who were more vulnerable than me even worse.
this is off topic i think, though related. i know the psychology of the bullied-what is the psychology of the bully? they must have serious problems, and rather than imagine there is a way to stop them-because there isnt-why not give them counseling as well?