Thanks for replying TRM, yes please i don't mean ANY offence whatsoever, i find it very hard to not sound nasty sometimes because i have a very direct writing style that is easy to interpret as being offensive, and i don't hold back on asking questions. I think i make the mistake of treating a religious discussion like a philosophical one, religion is not philosophy. I think it might be impossible to ask questions about a religious belief without sounding accusatory, or belittling, whereas you could question my philosophical beliefs and i wouldn't bat an eyelid. Questioning religion by nature is offensive, and thankyou for your good-natured reply.
In explanation, i was brought up Catholic in a very strict Catholic school (well, strict by Catholic standards, anyway). And we were taught very specific beliefs, that Jesus IS the son of God, the transubstantiation, the ascension, the resurrection, basically everything in the Nicene Creed: English versions of the Nicene Creed in current use - Wikipedia, the free encyclopedia
. It was very hard for me to reconcile these beliefs (and others) with my otherwise acceptance of Catholic teaching and its social stance, the general teachings of Jesus (love one another) etc. Personally, i don't call myself Christian because i don't believe in these core beliefs, and i don't believe in God.
The whole reason i asked initially is because in your original post it sounded like you might have been in a similar place, since you mentioned mainly the Christian social teachings and practice, not so much the stricter beliefs of the Creed. But Catholicism is very forgiving of belief in general, for instance Genesis was taught to me as a story, not a history, even much of Jesus' life was taught as much as a parable as the parables themselves. There was definitely an emphasis on the message of the bible, not the words of the bible, and there was very little mention of hell, in fact i think you have to work very hard not to go to heaven, and even then Jesus will forgive if you're sincere.
I also have to answer "what makes you call yourself a Christian" because that did sound bad, i'm sorry, that's not how i meant it.. I did mean it in the context of "in comparison to some other religion or group that has social teachings", perhaps a better question would have been "why did you choose Christianity.." But you answered it anyway, and it makes sense. I do have more questions, but this isn't the forum and it's not my place to question someone else's religious belief.
Sorry again, and again, welcome