@deepthot,
deepthot;168011 wrote:Are you saying, Fido, that no person who behaved as an ineffective, insensitive adult ever learned to be more ethical after taking a self-help course and thoroughly studying (and doing the homework from) the Manual accompanying the course?
Any number of people have changed their life for the better after merely reading a good self-help book. [I list ome of them by Demarest & Schoof (pending publication in harcover soon) in the Bibliography to my latest piece of writing. See the link below.]
People can learn to behave as though moral, but it is manipulation, and they are truly dangerous...
I think my morals have improved, but it was because of my basic moral sense, which I owed almost as much to my dog and my brother as to my mother and father... My mother and father are moral people, and I learned the essential moral lessons when I was too young to think about it, but almost from the moment I could think about it and the reason I did think about it was that I felt rejected, abused, and humiliated by my parents...
They were ambitious when young, had lived through the great depression, and had a first born son 80% paralyzed with the effects of polio... That was my world, and I found I could not have a dog because I was a dog for my older brother... But he, at least, nurtured the sense that I was valuable, and necessary, strong, intelligent, and loyal...And I must have been the evil genius of the family, because when my father died, my brother sent a letter taking credit for every plan I had that had went awry and had earned me a kick in the ess...How could he dare to try to make off with the crimes of my youth, the products off my ruthless mind??? What did he eveer do but curb my worst, and most dangerous ideas???
What made me moral then, and now, was the sense I got very early on that I belonged with those folks, that they were mine, and I was theirs. And while my parents all but destroyed the sense in me, my brother and even my dog, while I had one, nurtured the feeling... So, I was moral and immoral when young, more consciously immoral in adolecence, and young adulthood; and philosophy did help to bring me back to a certain moral understanding; but all that would have been empty thought without the basic moral feeling, the bond between myself and others at some point in my youth...Morality is community... As bad as they were, I was one of them, and though they often made me regret it, they could not take it...
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xris;168043 wrote:The lack of empathy or the ability to have empathy with one another usually forms our moral code. When a thief robs you, he can not have any feelings for your loss. Confronting the victim can stir empathy within the thief but many have crossed that point where they are beyond having compassion or reason to feel such empathy. What kills the conscience or what the individual does to avoid having regret, is complex. Lack of moral examples growing up, isolation from human contact, a lack of expressed love. We can so easily damage each other and by so doing damage the society we live in. When we don't act by the natural laws of life and succour our children, give them love and understanding, ethics are lost.
You cannot teach people how to feel... Look at the serial killers who were adopted after being rejected by their mothers... All they know is hate...