@William,
Beyond measure, I find it fascinating how topics get so mixed, muddled and charged. That being said... I'm not sure there is an "ideal" family. Love, grounding, security, teaching and nurturing aren't exclusive to any particular set up. Some structures may lend themselves more readily yet wane on others - it's debatable.
As for the idea of homosexuals raising children and all the choler it's raised in this thread - though a juicy discussion topic - I'm quite surprised with. Today, this very day, while children are being drowned, buried, burned, starved, abandoned, sold, prostituted, fed through wood chippers and the like, I have a hard time buying off that being cared for by two same-sex partners is something intrinsically 'bad'. [INDENT] Many good-intentioned people see this as a bastardization of the parental role, while a great many more are so over sexually-fixated that to them, the only thing any homosexual pair does is gross, disgusting and deviant and that this behavior ends up tainting the child. This, ladies and gentlemen, is a mindset that stands high in the annals of Idiocy, Hate and Fixated Stereotyping.
[/INDENT]I'd like to speak to this notion of the nuclear family, as William described it in his opening post. I had this; for the longest time my immediate family consisted of myself (as the male breadwinner), my wife (who cared for our two young boys) and the children themselves. Yes, in my mind there's a distinct feeling of pride that
I fathered these children
with this woman who
is my wife and there they play, happy and healthy. I know that I felt like my wife and I had played our roles as human animals have for thousands of years - yes I think i can say we were BOTH immensely proud.
But let's not waxe two-dimensional here. For me to say that this felt good, and it felt natural is not to say that I think any other arrangement for the rearing of children is necessarily bad. Quite the contrary! I've seen single parents, aunts and uncles, grandparents, foster parents - and yes, homosexuals - make fantastic parents.
In my opinion, the ingredients children need to become successful are
simple but not
easy. The simplicity comes from the imperative that they be given LOVE; lots of it and lots of physical affection as well as TIME, PATIENCE and DISCIPLINE. I feel quite confident in strongly asserting that
these qualities are not endemic to any particular configuration - they come from the heart, not the structure. Who alone holds these keys? Aren't they in each of us? And if so - what matters the structure as long as the essence of nurturing remains?
At least so methinks