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In the developed world I think people need to view children as a luxury, and accept that investing more time and care into fewer children actually does result in happier children and more balanced adults.
Foster parenting still seems to carry some stigma too, it ought to be seen as the very generous and caring move that it is - rather than some slightly suspicious "second best" to reproducing.
The developing world is a different issue, as many people there seem to regard large families as a survival strategy (China an obvious exception).
In both cases the accepted dogma to overcome would be the feeling that one's own offspring are more precious than other people's - a dogma I suspect is simply too entrenched in most people.
For this very reason I made the consious decision years ago that I would never have children. I am often called "selfish" by my procreating friends, I think I'm anything but selfish in this regard. It has cost me more than one long term relationship over the years but i stand by my decision. I don't believe it would be fair to bring a child into the world in the current position we find ouselves in.
Nature already seems to be conspiring to rid itself of the plague of humanity but other species are in the gun as well. Modern farming methods are already causing problems for the male not just of our species but also many others, amphibians mostly. Estrogen mimics are running into our waterways lowering sperm counts and increasing the incidence of hermaphrodites. "The death of the Male" or something similar is a must read for those interested. As someone earlier stated we don't have the capacity to "kill" the Earth, but I believe the Earth has the ability to kill most of us.
As has been said our economic system is a large part of the problem. Capatilism requires constant growth. Two negative quartes of growth is a recession and leads to considerable pain. That's a mere six months of producing less than we produced before. How can we eliminate our considerable waste and reign in our consumption under these circumstances. China and India are marching toward first world status. That means the number of people consuming beyond the planets means is set to triple in the next few decades.
I also refuse to give money to medical research. It seems to me that the goal of modern medicine is to eliminate death, which paradoxically would be suicide for the species. Why do we insist on prolonging the life of fat rich westerners who are the cause of our current problems. I know I sound like a heartless bastard but death and renewal are the most important things in life. As soon as any life is created it's set on a collision course with death, the one certaintity of life. Our obsession with youth and eternal life will lead to our downfall.
Maybe we could consider reversable sterilisation for everyone. This would rid us of unwanted, unplanned pregnancy but still allow those who want children to have the procedure reversed, when they are ready and able. Might also lead to an improvement in parenting as only those who really wanted a child would have one.