@HexHammer,
HexHammer;140931 wrote:Then do tell me, what experience you have gained from life, which may have alterd your view on that statemen.
This was an excellent question and I'm glad you asked it.
wayne;140970 wrote:
choose your friends wisely, wiser still, choose your enemies.
How I missed that for so long is a mystery, just dense I guess
It's odd that what you feel is an inherent contradiction to what your father said is the only thing that managed to put it into context for me. After I read your first post I was thinking "What does he mean you don't have any enemies? Everybody makes enemies in their life, and it would be a mistake to think you never had one."
The second quote reminds me of an experience I had at my previous forum. I was a clan leader and a forum administrator for two years, and after taking a six month break, when I returned, one of my good friends was coming under fire from an overzealous newbie. I quickly jumped into the discussion and defended my friend. This new member got in my face and started to attack me. Since I had a lot of respect and influence with the clan I didn't back down.
The next day I found my forum account banned, my IP banned, and I was banned from the game servers as well. What I didn't know from being gone for six months, was that the previous owner and founder had decided to step down and this guy was friends with the new administration.
I didn't have an enemy. At least not when I first returned or even after the initial conflict. He even warned me to back down, or he would have me banned, which seemed ridiculous at the time, since I was just defending a good friend. I decided to make an enemy though and I payed the consequence. I don't regret it, as I maintained my cool and I wasn't disrespectful, but in the end it cost me.
I think your father meant the same thing as the second quote you posted. The only enemies you have are the ones you make (so choose wisely). He must have just assumed you were smart enough not to make any.
That's my interpretation.