What interests me in this matter is that we usually condemn arranged marriges, but they might be, as you say, just as succesful as non-arranged ones. But it's probably also about the fact that if we are allowed to choose for ourselves, then we don't want anyone else to make our choice.

What interests me in this matter is that we usually condemn arranged marriges, but they might be, as you say, just as succesful as non-arranged ones. But it's probably also about the fact that if we are allowed to choose for ourselves, then we don't want anyone else to make our choice.

Do you know the reasons behind an arranged marriage? It's not forced, both parties agree to it and it ensures security for the future. I have friends who are very happy in their marriages, you have to look at why and how it orignated in the first place, but basically the parent is securing their childs future. On the flip side i have met women who are fleeing from their parents because they are forcing thier daughter who is very/too young and too westernised to marry someone they've never met. I dont think it's anything to so with being submissive to your parents, it's a cultural thing and my friend is happy, the parents do it out of caring for their child and ensuring they have security. Like I said you have to ask yourself why are the parents doing it and there is nothing malicious behind it.

What I'm trying to say xris is that not all arranged marriages are forced, for instance, my friend wasnt forced into it, she met the man before she married him, some women who meet them before the marriage and dont like the man wont be forced into marrying him the parents will look for a more suitable person and the agreemnet is quite amicable however there are cases that I totally disagree with;- parents who think it's ok to force their children into it, as i said before i met a woman who was tricked into it by her father and ran away as a result, i think that is just awful.