Good Post, Good Question
At the risk of donning my Capt Obvious cape and tights, I'd say: It depends. That being said; however, there are a couple of factors that figure in. For those times where we want to spare someone the pain of the truth, as we know it (in this scenario), compassion
is our driving force. Do we heap on them the pain of knowing
?[INDENT]The first thing that strikes me, is that if I evaluate whether or not I should tell what I know, is that I'm doing so based on my values, my fears and my idea of what is painful. One must be careful not to make a decision for others
[/INDENT][INDENT]Second perhaps is one's level of commitment to being truthful, as best we can. If I esteem honesty and respect for individuals, and someone asks, I'll tell what I know as best as can be put (with all the requisite qualifiers
, depending on how sure I am of such information - and not speaking on rumor and innuendo).
[/INDENT]And yes, I can well imagine situations where I simply can't bring myself to answer the question asked; in which case I'd think it best simply to say so. But it all depends on a myriad of factors. I guess the central-most point I'd like to contribute to the question is that I think it important we not assume what is best for others based on our highly-individualized mindsets
. If someone asks, tell them - if you'd want to know, offer such information to others; only do so in such a way that clearly and honestly qualifies the information you're giving: If its second hand, say so - if it's from a spurious source, either withhold or say as much.
... such as the world appears to me