Who has the guts to embrace those who don't always agree? Who is secure enough in their own position to embrace the variety here. To mention only one thing, a man or woman can only read so many books, study so many areas. So please please please share your enthusiasm, I say. Give me those details, those quotes, those hand picket nuggets of your idiosyncratic journey.
I am drawn to the bright and the kind. Some may draw my mind more and others my heart, but the two are a unity in the end. I think we are all here for that even if our desire is tangled in the usual human vanity.
I am in complete agreement.
Being kind and nice costs nothing and pays everything.
There was a time where I went ot and bought a book of classical insults to better armour myself so I could be witty but detached at the same time.
Doesn't work, I cant don't and wont work that way. I do however feel genuinely sad when my affection (not necessarily friendship) is not recognised.
Do you feel more at ease being kind or kinder to those whom you can call or rate as friend?
Because learning quickly people are actually going to disrespect or discount me more for my broad strokes of affection, I am trying to actually limit it or vent it more to those on my friend list.
Because although as said I regard us all as friends those who have taken the time and conscious effort and risk to ask and appeal to me for my name in their profile are those I can be as descriptively affectionate as possible with.
So the friendship recognition does do more for me because it gives me
warrant to be familiar with them.
The saddest thing is when I think I have displeased one of my current friends, this gets to me because I have allowed the idea of them being close nearer to my heart.
And inevitably with this added closeness I feel even more regretful when I cant always follow their work as closely as I would like.
I can really feel like a bad friend at times.
Which is why I cannot allow myself ever to ask anyone for their friendship because I really think it is an honour and i just know I am liable to fail them.
But this does not mean ever I have the right to turn any one down for their gift of an added closeness with them.
Who wants to turn away love right?
Just a shame I cant ask for it.
---------- Post added 05-31-2010 at 11:56 PM ----------
I agree completely. Friendship is spiritual, really. Friendship is the real "church." All of my great friendships have always been about the Ideal, one that we each saw thru different imperfect windows. And we worked together to enhance one another's vision. And just the sharing of one's history.
I like to read. And I like to drop a name. But I especially like those who can present their influences in their own words. Because you see what it is for them, and see that they HAVE it and are not just dropping names. And I don't care how much they have read if they have THOUGHT and FELT. My best friends in the real world do not read much. How strange! And yet we click. I utterly respect and love their minds. They are beautiful. Books are not of the essence. But a shared Ideal is.
I have nothing to add to this but that I absolutely agree, I was going to say religion but you said 'church' and this is even better.
I also would prefer to hear their interpretations and words and expressionisms.
Something to be said about CHARACTER, me thinks.
---------- Post added 05-31-2010 at 11:59 PM ----------
Ah yes! Because we can generally tell when someone is speaking from love or contempt. Humans are geniuses of emotion, because emotion is primary to thought. Make a case from love, if you think your friend could be happier. But o course one should admit that oneself could be the blind one. To me, wisdom is happiness. Knowledge might put a gun to its head, but Wisdom is smiling with gratitude. That;s the elephant in the room part 455. What is proof? What is it to be wrong? If one is happy and kind, where is the error? What's the point of our abstractions if not happiness and gratitude? The nasty are their own refutation.
Yes wisdom does not know how not to keep on smiling.