So, who do you trust? I have it all figured it out: there are two words that are sure-fire sign that the person speaking to you is not to be trusted.

Those two magic words?

Trust me.

Although it is common for dishonest people to utter the words, "trust me", it is not an absolute indicator.

To answer your initial question, I trust those who I have known to be trustworthy. As most people do not like to take the time necessary to find out who is trustworthy and who is not, they often seek shortcuts. Some things require time to find out, and taking shortcuts leads to error. Of course, one can know immediately that someone is not trustworthy if the first thing one observes of the person is that person being untrustworthy in some way, but generally it takes time for such things to be revealed in behavior. This is because most people say things that are true, or are believed true, much of the time, and so observing a few truths uttered by someone does not distinguish that person from others. A liar is not someone who only tells lies, or even mostly lies. An honest person, though, is one who always or almost always (depending on how honest we are talking about) tells the truth. So it always takes time to have enough information to reasonably judge a person to be honest.

Of course, not trusting someone is not the same as treating a person rudely, so one may not reveal that one does not trust someone to that someone. I generally do not call the liars I encounter "liars" to their faces, as there is usually little point in doing so, and often there is a motive to not do so.

Oh I wasn't being serious about it: trust me.

Trust is definitely not something that I encounter every day. Just like integrity, it is only when it is lost, that it affects you.

But not entirely being trustworthy and trusting affects your very nature and how open you are to lifes experiences.
Distrusting and untrustworhty people experience less of what life has to be earned and on offer.
Some things in life are free dont not take them because you think interest may have to paid on it some day.

Perhaps experiencing less is better?

But I just don't see trust as a factor I use to judge people in general. I trust everyone to some extent. But I do use trust as a factor on the most important people in my life.

Anima XXX !:bigsmile:

But not entirely being trustworthy and trusting affects your very nature and how open you are to lifes experiences.

Distrusting and untrustworhty people experience less of what life has to be earned and on offer.
Some things in life are free dont not take them because you think interest may have to paid on it some day.

I remember reading that people are more cynical than the should be about how trustworthy other people are. That they usually underestimate how many people are trustworthy. I don't know the statistics they used to figure that though.

I remember reading that people are more cynical than the should be about how trustworthy other people are. That they usually underestimate how many people are trustworthy. I don't know the statistics they used to figure that though.