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That isn't really friendship.
Friendship is a commitment we make. It is unconditional, and should not be made lightly. It is my honor that is at stake when I choose to call someone friend.
I don't agree with your value point system regarding friendship.
and I certainly don't agree that a relationship = friends + sex.
then what is the difference between a relationship and friends with benefits?
I don't buy it. A person can love a friend in a way that is purely friendship and have sex with them in a way that is purely sexual and still have a valuable friendship with them in which there is comfort and trust. Yet it never develops into a relationship where romantic love is involved. it can happen. trust me.
Commitment? No! Unconditional? We are not babies anymore, we judge and only base someone on how much value they have. Even a daughter or a son have the ability to denounce their mother if she does something that makes her lose her value. However, because they are the offspring of their mother, they still obligate themselves to return to their mother and forgive her and restore some of her value points. Can you continuously satisfy your friend? Even a 20 year old friendship can suddenly end if ONE thing causes you to lose all the value your friend had put on you. ONE thing! Defeating so much more? Talk about currency exchange.
This is how we were taught to be. It is not natural.
I have only one experience, actually. I'm not saying it's a likely scenario, I'm only saying that a relationship is more than just friendship and sexual intimacy.
ITS GREED AND SEXUAL DESIRES!
You tell yourself that you want to have your soul mate, but be honest, you want sex, and you want someone to be around you. Its for your own good. You also want the woman thats the most valuable to you. A woman who does things that you agree with and that makes you happy.
Most relationships end in divorce because the sex eventually loses its ability to raise the value, and the couple know each other for so long that they start coughing up truths and getting irritated with each other.
Trust me, if a man found the perfect soul mate, then the woman must have been very willing to remain married and not leave.
I have only one experience, actually. I'm not saying it's a likely scenario, I'm only saying that a relationship is more than just friendship and sexual intimacy.
Friendship is a commitment we make. It is unconditional, and should not be made lightly. It is my honor that is at stake when I choose to call someone friend.
I love you all in one form or other.