Due to recent experiences in my life I have come to the conclusion that lying is an act of cowardice. I do not mean little white lies to spare another's feelings over something not important.

I think it takes courage to speak the truth, especially when it is something that the person you are speaking to does not want to face. The truth hurts sometimes(ok many times), but ultimately it is for our own good to know the truth. I value my friends who are willing to tell me like it is, I trust them. I know where I stand with them. I know they love me because they care enough about me, and respect me enough, to be honest with me.

I want to know the truth. I do not want to be misled, especially for my own supposed good. And people who lie to me for that reason cannot really respect me very much after all.

If I see a friend doing something I feel will ultimately hurt them down the road, or see they are not being honest with themselves I have to speak up. I think it would be wrong not to. It is not easy to do, but so what? I could not live with myself if I just lied, or ignored the problem. And I would not be a very good friend either.

This is bothering me because recently a friend I trusted very much, well I confronted him about lying to me. He never gave his reasons and said under the circumstances he would do the same thing again. Now I am left to wonder, was it all a lie? And for someone to lie to me like that, and feel justified in it, I do not understand. It did me no good, just made me feel like a fool, who cannot handle the truth, at least by his perceptions. I feel very disrespected by this. I ended the friendship, as much as it hurts, because I cannot stand being lied to. How can I ever know where I stand with someone who lies to me? Was there really a friendship there? I don't think so.

Relationships need trust and honesty, and you cannot have one without the other.

What do you think? Am I idealizing truth too much here?

& If a person lies often, do you think they also lie to themselves?

Due to recent experiences in my life I have come to the conclusion that lying is an act of cowardice. I do not mean little white lies to spare another's feelings over something not important.

I think it takes courage to speak the truth, especially when it is something that the person you are speaking to does not want to face. The truth hurts sometimes(ok many times), but ultimately it is for our own good to know the truth. I value my friends who are willing to tell me like it is, I trust them. I know where I stand with them. I know they love me because they care enough about me, and respect me enough, to be honest with me.

I want to know the truth. I do not want to be misled, especially for my own supposed good. And people who lie to me for that reason cannot really respect me very much after all.

If I see a friend doing something I feel will ultimately hurt them down the road, or see they are not being honest with themselves I have to speak up. I think it would be wrong not to. It is not easy to do, but so what? I could not live with myself if I just lied, or ignored the problem. And I would not be a very good friend either.

This is bothering me because recently a friend I trusted very much, well I confronted him about lying to me. He never gave his reasons and said under the circumstances he would do the same thing again. Now I am left to wonder, was it all a lie? And for someone to lie to me like that, and feel justified in it, I do not understand. It did me no good, just made me feel like a fool, who cannot handle the truth, at least by his perceptions. I feel very disrespected by this. I ended the friendship, as much as it hurts, because I cannot stand being lied to. How can I ever know where I stand with someone who lies to me? Was there really a friendship there? I don't think so.

Relationships need trust and honesty, and you cannot have one without the other.

What do you think? Am I idealizing truth too much here?

& If a person lies often, do you think they also lie to themselves?

I think it takes courage to speak the truth, especially when it is something that the person you are speaking to does not want to face. The truth hurts sometimes(ok many times), but ultimately it is for our own good to know the truth. I value my friends who are willing to tell me like it is, I trust them. I know where I stand with them. I know they love me because they care enough about me, and respect me enough, to be honest with me.
I want to know the truth. I do not want to be misled, especially for my own supposed good. And people who lie to me for that reason cannot really respect me very much after all.
If I see a friend doing something I feel will ultimately hurt them down the road, or see they are not being honest with themselves I have to speak up. I think it would be wrong not to. It is not easy to do, but so what? I could not live with myself if I just lied, or ignored the problem. And I would not be a very good friend either.
This is bothering me because recently a friend I trusted very much, well I confronted him about lying to me. He never gave his reasons and said under the circumstances he would do the same thing again. Now I am left to wonder, was it all a lie? And for someone to lie to me like that, and feel justified in it, I do not understand. It did me no good, just made me feel like a fool, who cannot handle the truth, at least by his perceptions. I feel very disrespected by this. I ended the friendship, as much as it hurts, because I cannot stand being lied to. How can I ever know where I stand with someone who lies to me? Was there really a friendship there? I don't think so.

Due to recent experiences in my life I have come to the conclusion that lying is an act of cowardice. I do not mean little white lies to spare another's feelings over something not important.

I think it takes courage to speak the truth, especially when it is something that the person you are speaking to does not want to face. The truth hurts sometimes(ok many times), but ultimately it is for our own good to know the truth. I value my friends who are willing to tell me like it is, I trust them. I know where I stand with them. I know they love me because they care enough about me, and respect me enough, to be honest with me.

I want to know the truth. I do not want to be misled, especially for my own supposed good. And people who lie to me for that reason cannot really respect me very much after all.

If I see a friend doing something I feel will ultimately hurt them down the road, or see they are not being honest with themselves I have to speak up. I think it would be wrong not to. It is not easy to do, but so what? I could not live with myself if I just lied, or ignored the problem. And I would not be a very good friend either.

This is bothering me because recently a friend I trusted very much, well I confronted him about lying to me. He never gave his reasons and said under the circumstances he would do the same thing again. Now I am left to wonder, was it all a lie? And for someone to lie to me like that, and feel justified in it, I do not understand. It did me no good, just made me feel like a fool, who cannot handle the truth, at least by his perceptions. I feel very disrespected by this. I ended the friendship, as much as it hurts, because I cannot stand being lied to. How can I ever know where I stand with someone who lies to me? Was there really a friendship there? I don't think so.

Relationships need trust and honesty, and you cannot have one without the other.

What do you think? Am I idealizing truth too much here?

& If a person lies often, do you think they also lie to themselves?

Due to recent experiences in my life I have come to the conclusion that lying is an act of cowardice. I do not mean little white lies to spare another's feelings over something not important.

I think it takes courage to speak the truth, especially when it is something that the person you are speaking to does not want to face. The truth hurts sometimes(ok many times), but ultimately it is for our own good to know the truth. I value my friends who are willing to tell me like it is, I trust them. I know where I stand with them. I know they love me because they care enough about me, and respect me enough, to be honest with me.

I want to know the truth. I do not want to be misled, especially for my own supposed good. And people who lie to me for that reason cannot really respect me very much after all.

If I see a friend doing something I feel will ultimately hurt them down the road, or see they are not being honest with themselves I have to speak up. I think it would be wrong not to. It is not easy to do, but so what? I could not live with myself if I just lied, or ignored the problem. And I would not be a very good friend either.

This is bothering me because recently a friend I trusted very much, well I confronted him about lying to me. He never gave his reasons and said under the circumstances he would do the same thing again. Now I am left to wonder, was it all a lie? And for someone to lie to me like that, and feel justified in it, I do not understand. It did me no good, just made me feel like a fool, who cannot handle the truth, at least by his perceptions. I feel very disrespected by this. I ended the friendship, as much as it hurts, because I cannot stand being lied to. How can I ever know where I stand with someone who lies to me? Was there really a friendship there? I don't think so.

Relationships need trust and honesty, and you cannot have one without the other.

What do you think? Am I idealizing truth too much here?

& If a person lies often, do you think they also lie to themselves?

I think it takes courage to speak the truth, especially when it is something that the person you are speaking to does not want to face.

This is bothering me because recently a friend I trusted very much, well I confronted him about lying to me. He never gave his reasons and said under the circumstances he would do the same thing again.

...the only thing i would add is that the person who tells lies often enough does indeed tell himself lies and believe them.

Purposefully lying

This is a pleonasm, since all lies are purposeful. If one tells a a non-truth unintentionally, it isn't a lie.