Guilt is not good or useful, even if society or authority or the heart's need for recompense claim to require it. Guilt is, after all, external because we feel that some resolve will come from it. Simply suffering is self destructive and many say a sign of self-loathing. The only internal situation is shame because it is from shame that renewal comes. One simply cannot turn back time. There is no goodness or productivity from this awful pit. In the war I killed- and not just soldiers with guns aimed at me. I felt nothing- even joked about it with my buddies. We all did. When I got back I was introduced to my soullessnes in "Just doing my job as a soldier". I don't need to elaborate, but I do need to say that my healing came in recognizing what I had done, that what was done was done, there is no returning and no matter how I planned to punish myself it wouldn't matter. I came to know that if only I should continue on living my life the best way I could in the most natural and sane way I could, to let love in and simply carry on, it made the selfishness of guilt not only ridiculous for me, but absolutely useless. I came back, went to college, got married for love (the only reason to marry), help create and raise my children and not care what others thought about me. I have no use for the pity others put on me so they can vicariously get their kicks from whjat they think is my suffering. And I don't want any favors. That to me is closure, not like those folks whose loved ones were killed and continued bitterness and suffering until the killer was found, then dragged themselves back into court so "avengement" could cure them. Those people never heal. Object lesson. I didn't "get over", I left it in the dust where it belonged. Thus, I have led a wonderful and happy life. Anyway, that's all I ever really wished for. I wish for you the same.