There's no doubt that many Family Members are decent people who have a sincere interest in helping those less fortunate. Most of the negavite aspects of the group are witheld from Family members (better said, they are discouraged from informing themselves about them) or presented to them with a spin so it cannot be said that every Family member knowingly supports the abuses and crimes that have taken place/are taking place--thus they are convinced that those negavtive aspects are lies.
Most of the criminal activity (tax fraud aside) was far more prevalent in the past, so many of the younger generation are completely unfamiliar with it and, again, claim it is all lies (that's what they've been taught all their lives, so they can't really be blamed for their ignorance).
The reason I can state the above with as much certainty is that I was, until 4 years ago, a born-and-raised member of the Family. Up until several months after I left, I believed I was not abused--until I began reflecting on my experiences and realized that I would never, ever allow my daughters to have happen to them what happend to me.
If you're interested in hearing the take on all of this of the Family members you're in contact with, here are a couple questions you could ask them that would make for an interesting conversation:
1) Do you consider what was done to Davidito, as documented in the Family publication "My Little Fish" (http://www.xfamily.org/index.php/Story_of_Davidito
), to be proper use of a child? Do you consider it proper use of a child to take photographs of such acts, print them and publish them?
If not, why are you satisfied that Maria and Peter have made no public apology for their abuse of Rick Rodriguez?
If yes, please explain how you feel such acts fall under the United Nations' Convention on the Rights of the Child.
2) Why, if The Family considers child abuse a punishable offence, has its leadership not reported a single Family member accused of abuse to the proper local authorities for investigation?
3) The Family has stated that they have renounced David Berg's doctrines regarding child sex. If this is the case, where is the official, public document stating such? If one exists, why is there no mention of it anywhere on the TheFamily.org website?
4) The Family leadership and spokespeople have acknowledged that some abuses took place. Why then, when a person speaks out about their abuse and demands accountability by the involved parties, is the leadership and spokespeople's first reaction to claim the person is lying rather than initiating immediate extensive investigation into the allegations by an uninvolved third party?
There are many more questions that have remained unanswered, but these should be enough to get a bit of dialogue going.
My personal take is that The Family has a right to the lifestyle and belief system of their choice (so long as they harm no one and remain legal), but they must be held accountable for the crimes and abuses that were committed in the past.