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I'm lost. I'm walking a fine line between sanity and madness. My family (minus their father) is severly wounded by the damage their dad did to them. Such a long story, like all of yours and I'm so sorry that all of our lives ended up, in there being a need for us to seek each other for support. I can't see through all of this mess. I keep trying to process that my life, my kids' lives, has been sadistically twisted. I can't even believe I'm on this site - this isn't the road that life is suppposed to lead you on. There have been a few moments over the past month where I have actually thought my mind was going to shatter. Then, logic kicks in and tells me I'm the only one they have to keep them safe. I don't want this 'lot' in life and it pisses me off. Someone through me something to let me know, we all get through this. Please.
From what the research on epigenetics and childhood trauma is telling us, your conclusion is correct. The experience of adverse events during childhood development can and does permanently change the way the brain is structured and functions. When you talk about "mind over matter," what you're really referring to is the ability that humans have to adapt and cope with physiological changes in response to environmental impacts. For example, a man who lost his legs in an accident adapted his locomotion to the point that he was able to walk across the country using his arms and a specially-fitted device for his torso.
Although some wounds may never heal--that is, some traumas create permanent changes in the brain and some aspects of "normal" development are forever lost--people do become very adept at coping with those losses over time. The more you practice, the better you get. Point being, if you live long enough and work at it, you'll reach a place where you are more focused on what you've accomplished than what you've lost. Sounds to me like you're getting there.
You dont have to b in a cult to be abused her father may have done it even if yous werent in the family, just love and support your daughter but rememebr you may feel bad for what has happend to your daughter but imagin what she feels she went through it you must stay strong for her as i am sure u will i send you both my love and thoughts x
After they allegedly made it an official policy that sexual abuse was all of a sudden not ok in the mid '80s
They dismantled the family unit of parent and child, essentialy giving ownership of the children to the cult Leadership.