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Reply Thu 14 Jan, 2010 01:23 am
Help for those in need
Hi everyone. Please pardon me for not introducing myself. Im sure most of you will understand that I do not want to be villainized by a whole organization. If you need a tag you can call me Normal guy ( I wish I was).

The reason I putting up this post is because I am disturbed by something.
There does not seem to be any sort of support (of any kind) for people who leave the "Family".

I know when I left I left with nothing ? no friends, no money, and most importantly no paperwork of any kind. As you can imagine this has seriously limited my choices and opportunities. When I had a kid it took me nearly two years to get him citizenship ( he was stateless for nearly two years).
Forget about normal things like getting a reasonable job, buying a house, joining university, or even simple things like opening a bank account.
Since birth we have had our choices carved away. Most if not all of our parents never even considered that we might not stay in their group so by the time we are old enough to leave we walk away with nothing.
I strongly believe that there are many people still in the Family who would leave if they knew that after they left the would have some friendship, support, and advice.
We were always told as children that the world was full of evil selfish people. Of course people are frightened to leave.

And of course there are all those people like myself who have left the Family in a country far from their own. Many of these people have never even lived in their native country and sort of get stuck. As many of you have seen these good people have about three options ? they can join the military, become an English teacher, or become a criminal of some sort.
This is by no means far fetched. I would go so far as to say that everyone who I knew as a child who has left fits into one of these categories. Its very sad but unfortunately true.

Socially many of these people are still children. In some cases they have never even dealt with anyone who was not part of that organization.

I think its fair enough to say that they need help and since there is no one else I afraid this daunting task has been left to our sorry band of misfits.
We must help each other and those who would like to assimilate into the population of the world.

I have an idea and any comments, suggestions, or advice on how this can be done would be more than appreciated. I would very much like to start a foundation to help these people. We have struggled so hard and are still struggling. Should they have to? We did nothing wrong. We didn?t choose this it was thrust on us.
I would like to start some sort of organization to help these people.
It would theoretically be an organization that could provide legal and social advice on a person to person basis. We could help them to find jobs, help get their education on track.
I believe that I ( with a little bit of help) could pull together the finances and framework for a project like this but I am new to all of this. I haven?t had contact with any former or current members in a long time and would need quite a bit of help in that area.

As I said before any ideas, comments, or suggestions you have would be more than welcome.
I must stress that as much as I dislike even the idea of the "Family" the goal of this organization is not to try and destroy them but to present people who are leaving and who want to leave with choices.

We shouldn?t have had to fight and suffer as much as we did.

Please help me give them a choice and thank you for taking your time to read this

Good luck to you all
Normal guy

Feel free to contact me at [email protected]
 
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Reply Sat 23 Jan, 2010 10:23 am
Re: Help for those in need
Dear Normal Guy,

I am sure that many ex-members, like myself, would be happy to help anyone who has just left the Family. The problem is that many of us have limited resources. But perhaps we could begin by just having a discussion board (such as this one) to discuss particular problems, with advice and encouragement for people.
 
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Reply Thu 4 Feb, 2010 06:37 pm
Re: Help for those in need
There was something like this up until only a year ago.

Unfortunately the creator decided that if she couldn't handle the admin duties, then no one else could either. The website([url]movingon.org[/url]) was shut down with no warning, and absolutely no discussion about the obvious fact that it could have happily continued on without Jules. The whole support network, that many people were still using regularly, was completely and utterly abandoned(i.e. the website was offline for a week before she even bothered to post that aloof explanation). http://xchildrenofgod.xfamily.org/general/movingon-org-t6688.html

So if you were to setup a new forum, I think re-gaining peoples trust would be your main problem. Some sort of system guaranteeing the admin(s) cannot just have a bad day and decide to shut it down(because its mine and I own it!) would go a long way too. I know people will cite privacy concerns, but there must be a way to address them. Anything is better then having no support network at all.

Best of luck. There is definitely still a need for this, and if you can address these issues I think that people will participate.
 
 

 
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