I am looking for information on Jacob Parker, who grew up in The Family International (TFI) and was responsible for spreading lies about me in order to manipulate and control someone I had a great friendship with.

I first heard about him when my friend and I were on holiday together. She seemed distressed, telling me that Jacob wouldn’t stop messaging her, despite her repeatedly asking him to give her space. She showed me his photo—one he had sent of himself and his child—along with what seemed like an endless stream of messages. I told her it was a massive turn-off when she entertained guys like that, and she became visibly distressed, responding that she knew. I joked that he would probably be standing outside her window, and she simply said, "Don’t," in a way that made me feel she knew something unsettling about him—perhaps something she had been warned about.

We didn’t talk about him for the rest of the holiday, but I suspect the messages continued. During the trip, we spoke about meeting up after she finished her job in Harlingen, and I completed my studies. However, when she returned home, Jacob refused to accept that she didn’t want to be with him. She confided that he had come to her house and, when she told him she was planning to leave, he kissed her against her wishes. She was upset and hung up the phone. I called her back, reassuring her that it wasn’t a big deal and to just block him, but she said it was difficult since they worked together. She later told me he would catch her at work, and at one point, she had taken ecstasy at South Padre Beach and ended up sleeping with him.

Despite this, I had already booked my trip to Texas to see her. When I arrived, she seemed nervous. We spent a night in San Antonio, where she told me she didn’t want to feel the way she was feeling anymore, but she wouldn’t elaborate. I assured her that there was no pressure, that we could just enjoy our time together, and she liked that idea. We had a great weekend.

Things changed when she went back to work—she came back a different person, with an unusual mean streak. This was when Jacob isolated and manipulated her. She told me how he had convinced her that if I truly loved her, I would be there, and that if we were meant to be together, it would have happened by now. I believe this was how he slowly changed her personality, persistently questioning our years-long friendship and relationship.

During my two-week stay, I met her family and friends, all of whom were raised in TFI. I thought they were good people, and we got along well. The trip had ups and downs, but before I left, she told me she needed space. She assured me she wasn’t going to be with Jacob, even if she didn’t end up coming to meet me, and that she wanted us to be friends and see what happened. I agreed, as we had always had a strong friendship.

After I returned home, I focused on improving myself. Her words about me not listening stuck with me, and as I worked on this, repressed childhood trauma surfaced. I began to understand things she had told me about her own experiences. We kept in occasional touch, with her liking my messages of support or replying briefly.

Around six months later, she told me she was going to Scotland and Spain—with Jacob. I had previously invited her to both places, so I questioned why she was going there with him. On a video call, she admitted she had wanted to go with me but stopped short of explaining why she was going with him. She said this trip was going to be different.

When I pressed her about Jacob and how creepy I found him, she said she was feeling weird and needed to talk to him. I told her that as her friend, I wanted to see her, and that Jacob had no say in that. She suggested she would ask him if we could meet in Spain, which I found absurd—I didn’t need his permission. After this, she stopped responding for about two months.

I reached out, saying I wanted to talk about things happening in my life and that, as friends, we would always be there for each other. She agreed, mentioning Spain winning the Euros. Later, she opened up about being in a bad place. She said she was sitting alone in a park because she didn’t want to go home and face reality. She admitted she didn’t think she wanted "any of this," that she was repeating old patterns, and that she shouldn’t be doing so. She also admitted she shouldn’t be speaking to me because I was her ex—but that wasn’t really true, as we had never been able to start a relationship properly. She thanked me for the talk and said it had helped her.

Later, we had another video call, but she seemed different, like something was weighing on her mind. Shortly after, she messaged me saying Jacob was moving in and that he didn’t want her speaking to me. I questioned why she was letting him control her, and she replied that she was "compromising." When I pushed further, she told me that Jacob "knew why I couldn’t stop messaging her." This was when I had enough of him and his manipulative, controlling behavior.

I looked into Jacob Parker, and within five minutes, I found that he had received a restraining order, along with other offenses. When I brought this up to her, she became defensive, asking why I was looking into him and then saying she didn’t want to know. That was when I realized I had lost my friend, that Jacob had completely isolated her.

Given that Jacob works at Harlingen High School, I thought it was only fair to make the facts about him publicly known. Unlike him, I would stick to verified facts with sources. My former friend became furious when I shared information she had told me along with details of Jacob’s restraining order. She threatened to never speak to me again if I didn’t take it down. Initially, I felt bad and agreed, but after she cut off contact anyway, I realized this was part of Jacob’s plan to isolate her completely.

I refuse to let people who turn a blind eye to abuse—saying things like "she has to make her own mistakes" or "God will make it right"—continue to ignore what’s happening. I know something is being covered up. If anyone has information on TFI in Harlingen or Jacob Hunt Parker, I would love to hear from you and share my story in more detail.