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Mon 14 Aug, 2006 06:30 pm
Need some advice/support
Hi all
Am a third year student nurse, qualifying next year. At present am at a loss, i really dont know what to do with my life. I am constantly thinking of self harm, I skip classes because i dont want to get up in the morning, and my tutors have pulled me up on this and are threatening me with intercallation. I feel so alone when am at uni, my best friend has had to take time out from uni because she miscarried during pregnancy. We used to hang out together all the time, travelling to and from uni. Now am all alone. When I go in, all i get asked is how is Sarah, is she ok. I dont have anybody to hang out with while at uni, and when i do go in, I am back on the train halfway through the day's lectures in tears. The problem is i really can not cope and I have nobody I can turn to including family. I have self harmed in the past, and I feel like I will do myself damage now. Luckily I have not had a clinical placement for a few months now, but maybe this will affect the care that i give. Please pleasee can anybody give me advice on what's the best way to come through all this successfully...
Dear Blue Fairy,
You are interested in helping others, but first you must help yourself. Consider it a learning experience. Take yourself to your doctor or clinic. Be honest in describing your depression, as you were with us. You are not alone! There are millions of us able to live a fulfilling life after battling depression. Many of us need meds to keep things on an even keel and keep going forward. Counseling is also very important. You learn tools to use to deal with your feelings and state of mind. It is nothing to be ashamed of, but you need to deal with it!
Start a diary to keep track of your moods and feelings. This will be a big help when you're talking to a counselor. Also, make exercise part of your daily routine. A brisk walk can produce endorphans that help you to feel good! Trust me, I've been to the dark hole and back a few times! I now know how to keep myself from ending back there.
God bless you.
Hi NurseBaker,
Thanx so much for responding to my post, I didn't want to mention the D word, but its there in writing and i need to face up to it, as i cant go on like this. I have had bad experiences in the past with doctors and counsellors and that kinda puts me off. But i will be more proactive, and learn to deal with this. I dont feel as bad today as i did when i wrote the first post. Thanx again. xx
Good for you! The road to feeling better isn't easy or quick, but well worth the work you'll put into it. Once you are feeling better, you'll be a very empathetic nurse.
Keep your chin up petal it WILL get easier. I'm on meds at the min for depression also. I'm starting in a nursing home in a few weeks (which I'm dreading as all I'm told is that the pt's vomit non-stop) I also go for counselling by my doctor.
You will be ok hun! Take care! xoxox
hi there
Hi my name is jo and i have just joined this forum and came across your situation, Hope you are doing ok, i have just qualified and have found myself unemployed, all i do when things are bad is talk to whoever will listen, usually my poor husband, but if you do not have a partner use this forum as i am sure there are many qualified people and others that have been in your situation. You are doing a very brave thing by letting some one know how you are feeling that is a huge step even though it may not feel like it. you do need to concentrate on your final year as it will go very quickly, try and enjoy it as it is scary when you qualify but as a student think of all those very poorly people you are helping you are choosing a good career and at the end of it you WILL be a nurse, it is something to really look forward to and a goal to aim for, hang in there, may be talk to your tutors or mentors they should help you if not at least they could listen.... take care XX ( warning i do go on a bit!!)
BlueFairy wrote:Hi all
Am a third year student nurse, qualifying next year. At present am at a loss, i really dont know what to do with my life. I am constantly thinking of self harm, I skip classes because i dont want to get up in the morning, and my tutors have pulled me up on this and are threatening me with intercallation. I feel so alone when am at uni, my best friend has had to take time out from uni because she miscarried during pregnancy. We used to hang out together all the time, travelling to and from uni. Now am all alone. When I go in, all i get asked is how is Sarah, is she ok. I dont have anybody to hang out with while at uni, and when i do go in, I am back on the train halfway through the day's lectures in tears. The problem is i really can not cope and I have nobody I can turn to including family. I have self harmed in the past, and I feel like I will do myself damage now. Luckily I have not had a clinical placement for a few months now, but maybe this will affect the care that i give. Please pleasee can anybody give me advice on what's the best way to come through all this successfully...
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