This query is an anthropological and psychological question. None of these philosophers you mention ever addressed this issue.
You might do better to formulate a general questionnaire for people who have first hand experience of abuse.
As a child I saw my mother allow herself to get beaten and to invite her abuser back to the family home after he had spent time in prison for his abuse.
This was a painful and frustrating thing to witness for me and my siblings.
No amount of philosophising has led me to understand this behaviour.